I struggle with discipline and motivation, let's say it. I've tried many times to follow a diet/exercise and try to lose weight, however, this is another topic..But since I've tried various times over the years, i got to notice my father's behavior towards my decisions.
Let's start with the body-shaming: constantly being called out about the amount of food i eat like "you've had enough of this.." "are you still hungry?? Jesus" etc., or insulted for not moving enough during the day (I'm sorry that i have to sit to do my homework and projects). When he's not insulting me directly, he talks about others in order to make me compare to then and feel bad.
However, not a single help in losing weight: he said no to the gym membership, he doesn't want me to go running with him because I'd "slow him down".. And worst of all
..he gets literally angry when i diet. It's almost like by dieting I'm insulting his choices. He has forced me several times to eat what he wanted me to, even if i was full. When i refused to go with my parents to the restaurant (they/we go almost every week to eat pizza) because i didn't feel like eating a whole 800 calories pizza, he caused a scene, yelling at me that he "can't" go to the restaurant because of ME, that i FORCE my mom to cook nasty food (aka healthy) that he CAN'T enjoy (aww the poor guy) all because of my diet.
Sometimes he gets passive aggressive and cooks something tasteless only for me with the excuse of "oh yeah i made you this crap because you're on a diet, aren't you?"
And sometimes he tries to make decisions for me, for example when he said "me and your mother are going to the restaurant. I imagine you don't want to come and prefer to eat your f*cking salad right?"
Yes i know how to defend myself. Most of the times i just ignore him and do what i was doing anyway. But this is not okay.
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