Does it bother anyone else when other people you live with (family, roommates, etc) are “too interested” in what you eat?

Preface— I am aware that this might seem petty or small or silly. I do, however, think little things add up. And if you scrape away at one spot long enough, it starts to get sore. This is a sore spot for me.

I currently live with my parents even though I am very much an adult (thanks corona + grad school). We live in a small house, so you know where everyone is at all times. She also doesn’t work— and mostly camps out all day on her iPad in the living room (which you have to pass no matter where you’re going).

And I swear— this woman is a food MONITOR. She doesn’t necessarily “police”, but she always wants to know what I’m eating at all times. I find myself trying to hide from her at this point. I’ve talked to her about how I’m trying to think about food less (because I’ve been an obsessive on both ends of the scale— but it always ends in just constantly thinking about food). So I don’t want to chat about it, think about it, anything. But my mom “forgets”... which means that any time I walk from the kitchen to the den, she looks up to see what I’m eating. If I’m in the kitchen longer than 1 minute, she will come in to either ask what I’m having or tell me something random that she has already told me (as a cover for coming in to see what I’m eating).

This feels so silly to write out— but that’s why I’m here as opposed to venting to IRL friends who I doubt would get it.

I’m just... I’m finally in a good headspace where I’m not obsessing over food for the first time in my life and I find myself slipping back because I am so aware of how much my mom is watching me. It’s not that I’m eating anything I don’t want her to know about— it’s just that she makes me think about it more than I would if I was just mechanically/nonchalantly getting food throughout the day.

I know I need to work on whatever it is that makes me so averse to being watched... but I am not there yet.

I would honestly just love some stories of commiseration or tips if anyone else has people like this in their life.

Thx guys!

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