Hi all, I posted the above question to ask reddit and wrote the full below info to go with it...only to find out you can’t have text in the body of an ask reddit post. Someone recommended I try here instead so...yeah. Here we are.

Let me explain a little more.

My daughter is 10 and weighs 72 kg (we’re Australian - for Americans that’s 158 lb). For reference, she’s already 10 kg heavier than me (her mum) and steadily rising.

She was classified as morbidly obese at 8 and has been OBSESSED with food since she was 18 months old. I remember because around that time she started eating crazy stuff - whole tubs of butter, raw chicken, soap. It was hard work keeping her alive! (Surprisingly she does not have pica - we looked into that. She just wanted to eat ALL THE THINGS).

When we went for picnics she’s go and sit on other people’s picnic rugs to puppy-dog-eye them till they gave her treats, when we went to birthday parties she would never leave the food table to play, she sneaks food constantly and always wants to eat 12 meals a day.

I have worked really hard all her life to keep the focus off weight and on her health, I’d keep it light hearted too (we only eat one breakfast here, we’re not hobbits!) - we’ve seen countless dr’s, dietitians, pediatricians. She’s had a million blood tests to check that there’s not some medical reason for her constant need for food. I made sure that there was no mention of weight at any of those appointments and we just talked about them as check ups and to make sure she’s healthy.

So, basically, I’m asking here because as a mum but also as a woman who struggles with my own body image issues, I am terrified of fucking things up. I want her to be healthy and happy and have a great relationship with her body and food. I also don’t want her to turn around as an adult and say “why didn’t you DO anything?!”. When I see her getting bullied at school for her weight it breaks my heart and I feel like I’m failing her.

I want to know, as someone who has walked this walk, what is the most loving AND beneficial way to approach this?? And what things did parents/other adults say/do that truly hurt you and you would never wish on another child?

tl;dr Please tell me how to not fuck up my daughters life

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